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Monica Frederick

Tuesday Talks #2

Imperfection with Intention

This episode picks up where we left off last week. Andrew starts talking about his time after being deployed to Afghanistan and what adjusting back to civilian life was like. We also chat about what self doubt looks like and how to beat it.

Please note: This episode does contain adult language and themes. So, if you have little ones around you, pop your headphone in!

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U.S. National Guard

In his time in the U.S. National Guard, he explains how hard it was to work with people who hadn’t been deployed overseas, and didn’t understand what the experience is actually like.

He goes into his struggles with being around his fellow National Guard soldiers, who were more interested in which restaurant would give the best military discount than learning what it was like to actually be deployed in a war zone.

While serving in the National Guard, Andrew was training in the police academy. At the same time, there was long brewing turmoil in the U.S. about police.

During this time was when that brewing started pouring over. In a suburb of St. Louis, Missouri an unarmed African American man was shot and killed by a Caucasian police officer sparking protests. Some of these protests turned into violent riots.

Andrew describes his experiences when the National Guard was called.

In the police force

Afterward, Andrew became a police officer in Harrisonville, Missouri.

While he was in training, he struggled to agree with his training officer on taking the easy path.

Often, his training officer would pick and choose what to investigate based on how much paperwork there was to do.

This led Andrew to part ways with not only his current job, but the the career path he had been working towards his entire adult life.

Trying to find a new path + struggling with depression

He experimented with different jobs as he was trying to find his path. During this, he speaks openly about depression and self doubt. He goes into what he was feeling during that time in his life he felt lost.

We go into self doubt and the ever present comparison syndrome where you compare yourself to other people.

So, if you’re feeling self doubt and negative self talk boil up, pay close attention to the end of this episode. Andrew talks about how he was able to conquer that.

In upcoming episodes of Tuesday Talks on Imperfection with Intention, we’ll chat more about those types of negative feeling we all face. We’ll also go into options on how to deal with them.

But until then, I want to know: Do you know anyone that has a story like this? Or do you see similarities in your own life? If so, what have you done to over come? Let me know in the comments below.

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Monica

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