If you’ve been self-identifying as your job, what material goods you own, your status in the family or anything else that is outside of you, this episode is for you.
Today on the podcast, I’m going into the 4 ways to reinvent yourself. So if you’re ready to quit your career you’ve been pouring your blood, sweat, and tears into, but you don’t know who you’d be without it, this one’s for you. Or maybe you need your friends’ and families’ validation to feel good about yourself, then this episode is for you.
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- Why you GOT to let go of gauging your future by what you’ve accomplished in the past
- The one thing inside of you that you have to unearth if you want to uncover who you are at the core.
- How to take steps for self-discovery
- And what to do with all that new-found self-discovery and how to create goals based in who you reinvent yourself as (a.k.a. Who you TRULY are)
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And it has been definitely a learning curve for this, and it is something that I really love doing more than any other medium. And I’m excited to keep doing it. So today marking for this special 50 episode Mark, I am going into a topic that I’m pretty excited to talk about with you because it’s something that I have so much personal experience with and it means a lot to me.
And this episode is all about reinventing yourself. And so we’re going to be talking about how to do that in ways that actually makes sense and that are long lasting and how to reinvent yourself in a way that isn’t dependent upon what other people think of you or anything outside of you, like material goods, all of that.
And so it’s really funny that I wanted to do this episode this week because this past Saturday I went, um, and drove a few hours to a wedding that was in Michigan. So it’s about four hours from me. And it was for somebody that I used to work with in my old career, somebody who was really tight with back in my old career when I was still doing that.
And you know, I’ve talked a lot about how that . Career had affected me, both mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally, all of the, all of the things. It was effecting me in a bad way. And so when I went to reinvent myself, I basically had to let everything about it go. I had to let the work go. I had to let the people that I was friends with in their go and this opportunity to go to this wedding.
Not only was I around her who was a good friend of mine when I was in the career, but I also, um, was sitting with somebody else that I was really good friends with and that I had to back away from, not due to anything on their part. They are great people and I am proud to say that I am reconnecting with them, but I had to step away for almost a year and a half from them and from anybody else in the career that I was in or anybody.
That was part of my. Past life that had to do with that because I had no idea who I was without my company. I had no idea who I was without thinking about where I ranked among my peers. I had no idea how to even identify as to who I was without anything of like of that. And so because of that, I had to really step away from other outside influences that were tied to my past.
Because when I would do that, if I were to keep something from my past and I really wanted to reinvent myself, all I would do is think about. How they would think or how other other peers that I worked with would think or anything like that. And so I had to take a long time away from all of that. And so it was nice because I’ve taken all of this time to figure out who the heck I am, what I’m doing, um, and what’s really important to me and be able to help other people with that.
And I’m in a place now where I’m. So secure in who I am. It doesn’t matter who I’m around. And fortunately, you know, the people that I’m referring to, they are very fun spirited. I love being around them and now I can do that. I can be around them and not question my own worth. I can be around them and not think about what I’m wearing or if I’m wearing something good enough or if I have great makeup on, or I can actually just focus in on who they are and I can just not have to worry about.
Me losing myself because I’m too busy comparing. So I think this all is just perfect timing. It’s just the universe is just kind of coming together here. For me, it’s the 50th episode, so it’s a pretty important episode just based on that. And then of course, this past weekend, all of those experiences there, I mean, everything was just so aligned.
So I’m really excited to get in and talk about. Ways to reinvent yourself. So let’s first talk about, you know, maybe why you would need to reinvent yourself. So maybe you can hear yourself in my story. Maybe. You’re thinking about how you know you have been tying your worth into your career, or maybe you are just so completely burnt out by what you’re doing, but you’ve been doing it for so long, you have no idea who you are.
Or maybe it’s something else. Maybe it’s, maybe it is your, maybe it’s your family or just giving and giving and giving everything to your friends and family and you wouldn’t know who you are without them. Um, now I’m not saying that we have to go and drop everybody in your family to be able to figure out who you are, but we’ll get into that in a little bit later in the episode too.
But maybe it’s something else. Maybe you’ve been so wrapped up in something that you’ve been tying your worth and you’ve been tying your identity into that this is a good episode for you because you can step away from what you’ve been attaching your worth and your identity to and find something that is pure and whole within you.
To identify yourself as or to reinvent yourself as, and this is great because we talk often about how you don’t have control over. Other people and you don’t have control over the world or your situation or things like that. However, you do have control over what your thoughts are and how you react and how you feel.
Thinking along those lines, if we tie our worth into things like material goods, like for example, I’m a G owner and tie all of our existence around that, or maybe we tie our existence into our job titles, so maybe it’s something like. I identify as a marketing director, whatever it is, right? Whatever your job title is, if you always introduce yourself as that to somebody else, that’s a good indicator of what you’re using to talk about who you are.
Or maybe it’s something else, but you can see where I’m going with that. Anytime that we’re tying in our identity or our self-worth into something else, we don’t have control over that, which is outside of ourselves, right? We don’t have control over other people. So if you’re tying yourself into how other people see you, like maybe saying something along the lines of like, I am the type of person that everybody, you know, I’m the life of the party tying your identity and your self worth into that.
You know? That’s outside of you. You can’t control that. Like obviously you can control how you show up at the party, but you can’t. Decide for people if they think that you’re the life of the party. You see where I’m going with this, but when we look internally and we think about the things that are inside of us and use that to be able to identify who we are and what our worth is from based from within and the based in things that we can control, that’s where the self confidence comes in.
That’s where we can bat the insecurities and put them back into their little cages where they belong. That’s where we can. Turn to ourselves when the insecurities come out or when the fear comes out, because we know who we are on the inside and we know who we are at the core, and that’s what we can rely on.
We can create a belief system around who we are at the core and use not to fall back on when the insecurities pop out. So if I haven’t. Convinced you to think about your identity in a way that is only solely tied to you and who you are on the inside. Then I hope that data, but if not, then we’ll keep talking about how to reinvent yourself.
And hopefully you’ll, you’ll agree with me by the end of this episode. So there’s four different points that I really want to go into with this. So when you’re thinking about re inventing yourself. First we need to understand and grasp the concept that your past experiences do not define your capabilities for the future.
And my God, this is a really important one, but this one is fricking hard as hell to do. Um, so let’s think about. I use this example the other day. Actually, I use it with my husband. Really, I realistically, I try really hard not to be a coach to him because I don’t want to have that type of relationship with him.
And not to mention he’s known me for a very, very long time. So it’s hard for him to see me in that capacity. So sometimes I, I talk about things that I would talk about with my coaching clients and he’s like, Oh no, don’t, don’t do that with me. But there is one that I’ve just like, honey, I love you, but.
You need, you need to be coached. And then, you know what? I didn’t want to be that coach for him. So I got him a coaching session somewhere else. Regardless. My point is, this is something that I’ve brought up with him because it’s something I truly believe in. So your past experiences do not define your capabilities for the future.
What that means is when you are thinking about who you want to be, what you want to do, uh, where you want to go, how you want your life to look like, things like that. If you are using your past as a way to gauge what you can do in the future than you are already limiting yourself in a way where you will just be held so far back.
So let’s think about it like this. Let’s think about, you know, maybe one of your big goals or maybe something that you want to identify as is somebody who is free spirited. Um, let’s say, let’s say that’s important to you, but let’s say that you’ve been struggling with that because you know you have anxiety and you don’t identify as somebody who’s free spirited now, because you’ve always had anxiety.
You’ve always feared for the future. Or you know, if everything wasn’t. Uh, perfectly tailored or if it wasn’t perfectly laid out, maybe that’s where you’ve been and if that’s how you’ve been for a long time and you want to be a free, stupid person, if you gauge your ability to do that in the future by what you’ve done in the past, then you won’t be able to be a free spirit.
See what I mean? If you have been spending years and years and years, all of your past having anxiety about the future and not being free spirited, then how can you believe in yourself to be able to believe that you can be free spirited in the future? Right? So let’s give a more tangible example of that.
I use the example the other day with my husband about learning how to drive when you’re 14 years old. And you’re thinking about driving, like put your, put your time traveling hat on and go back into time. Right? And think about what it was like before you got your driver’s license. Those were rough days, weren’t they?
Let’s all be grateful. If you are somebody that can drive or drives frequently, then you, I’m sure are grateful for your driver’s license just as much as I am. But let’s go back and pretend that you are 14 years old again and you’re thinking about driving. So the idea of driving. It may seem scary because of course it’s something you’ve never done.
You know, when you think about getting on the road, you’re like, Oh my God, am I going to crash? Like am I going to get pulled over? Like what’s going to happen? Maybe all of those types of fears and just regular being scared types of thoughts pop up, but never once. I’m guessing there was never once where you’re like, well, I’m not going to be able to do it.
I’ve never done it before. So they’re, I, I’ve, I’ve never been able to drive, so that means I’m not going to be able to drive in the future. I had a hard time saying that out loud it cause it seems so absurd. No T no teenager says that no 14 year old kid believes that they won’t ever be able to drive because they never done it before.
All they’re excited about is just getting out on the road and just trying it. They know they might fail a little bit and they know that they’ll need to learn, but there’s no doubt in their mind that they’ll be able to figure out how to do it. Right? It’s because they’re not basing their ability to be able to drive based off of their past.
And they’re basing it on the fact that they can see other people doing it. And the fact that, you know, everybody’s been telling them like, Hey, you’re going to get your driver’s license at 16 and so they’ve just taken that as truth. So maybe you’re sitting there and you’re like, okay, that sounds great, but do I have to have.
Somebody tell me that I’m a free spirit in order to believe that I am. And the answer is no. But I wanted to use that example because that’s just a really innocent example of not having to look to the past to be able to determine your future. So let’s say that you want to be financially secure looking to the past, and you’ve never had really great experiences with money right.
It might be easy to be like, Oh, I could never do that. I’ll never be able to get out of this situation. You’ll use words like never and can’t though. Those types of words that have leave no wiggle room. Right? But when we’re not basing our future abilities off of our past, and then those types of, um, limiting words go away, like the nevers, the cats, all of those types of things, they go away, they turn into all figure it out right.
So remember how we were talking about how, um, with the driving thing, like you may be asking like, well, do I have to have other people. Tell me, I do. I have to have a bunch of people tell me that I’m good at something in order to believe that I can do it in the future or something like that. And again, the answer is no.
But for these teenagers, they’re believing that they can do that because they don’t realize that their belief comes from within. They’re thinking that their beliefs comes from the outside. But what if for us, you know, we’re older, we’re mature, we’re more mature, and we can be able to start to recognize what types of thoughts we have.
So what if. Instead of needing somebody else to tell you that you can do it, what have you generated that thought and that comment from within what have you or the one that constantly told yourself over and over, I can become a free spirit if I want to, or I can become financially stable or whatever types of words you want to use to identify yourself.
What if you were the one to tell yourself that? Because quite frankly, your opinion of yourself and your opinion of your abilities is way more important than anybody’s opinions of you or your abilities ever will be. And that is just the truth. I don’t care if you know, the most recognized famous scientist comes down and tells you that you’re going to be able to do something like that’s great that you have somebody else like that on your side.
But if you don’t believe in your own abilities. It doesn’t matter how establish or esteemed what whoever’s opinions are of you, right? You won’t be able to do it because you don’t believe in yourself. And that’s where it’s most important. So that’s why I’m spending so much time on this first point, because you’ve got to be able to realize that in order to go in a direction you want to, you do not have to have that already proven by your past.
Because at that point. If that were the case, nobody would ever learn how to do anything new, right? Nobody would ever do anything they’ve never done before. But there’s plenty of examples of people who have overcome the odds or have overcome their childhoods or, you know, figure it out how to do something by 90 years old, or the type of people who are still in college when they’re 90 years old.
Like nobody would ever do that because they would just think like, well, all these decades I’ve never been able to. So that must mean that I can’t. Right? So there are people obviously out there that believe they, they at least believe that they have the ability to, or that they might figure it out, right?
So if we can just harness a little bit of that in ourselves and realize that our past does not determine our future man, the doors just fling wide open for you at that point. So really spend a lot of time here. Really spent a lot of time thinking about how you may have been holding yourself back and your future back because you have been basing what you can do off of your past abilities.
So I am always a huge fan of journaling. I’m always going to recommend that probably in every episode until I die. I mean, just because it’s so eyeopening to see. What you believe about yourself or what’s going through your head, that thoughts going through your head in your own handwriting. I think there’s just something absolutely magical in that.
Now, if you’re not a writer, I mean, you could type it if you’d like, or, you know, I’ve known some people who just can’t think when they’re trying to, they’re right, or they see a blank page and they’re like, Oh, I can’t do this. Maybe just take the um, voice memos app on your phone and just speak to it if it’s speaking or VI recording video or something is more, and again, this doesn’t need to be seen by anybody else, but maybe just writing it down, typing it out, or just hearing yourself say it out loud.
This will be so eyeopening for you and you’ll see how you’ve been holding yourself back. Okay? So point number two is to identify your core values before you reinvent yourself. So I know there’s a lot of stuff we need to do before we actually start to reinvent ourselves. But these two pre-steps to reinventing yourself are very important.
And I talk a lot about core values. I’ve even talked about them so far in this episode. Um, but what they truly are is being able to identify who you are on the inside without any other outside resources. Um, so think about these like core personality traits or things that are very important to you that would not change no matter who you’re around, things like that.
So. On my website. I will make sure to link to it in the show notes, wherever you’re listening to this. But there is a podcast episode that I did all about core values and what they are and how to find them. And I also have a core values free workbook that you can use to be able to determine what they are.
But basically, like I said, these are innate personality traits about you. These are really important to know because these core values, which are about who you really truly are, these will help guide you in the future make and to help you make decisions that are based in who you are. They’ll help you be able to get out of indecision because when you are in that indecision, you’ll be able to think back to yourself and be like, okay, what are my core values.
What are they in priority? And which one of these two options is more aligned with who I am and my core values. So when you’re able to actually offhandedly say what your core values are and just know that within you, so many things will be affected by that. Um, but another reason is because you will be able to pull out of the failure funk so much faster than if you didn’t know what they are.
Okay. So let me give you an example. Let’s say, well, I’ll use myself as an example. One of my core values is being really compassionate and giving. Um, I am, I know that I am put on this earth to be able to help other human beings, and which is why I do this and why a coach and all of that kind of, uh, good goodness, but.
One of my core values is to be able to give back and to be that compassionate person. So when I am thinking about goals or I’m thinking about goals for my business, or I’m thinking about personal goals or friendship goals, or literally anything else that I’m thinking about in the future, I can come back to this core value and ask myself if it’s aligned with this.
So. If there’s something that would really propel my business forward, which again, my business is very important to me and it’s something that’s aligned with who I am because I want to give back and I want to help people. But let’s say there’s a super great business opportunity and somebody comes up and they’re like, I can take your business to the very next level.
Um, but you have to do this, and whatever this is, it’s, it’s something that hurts somebody else. It only hurts one person, but it still hurts one person. But I’d still get a lot out of it. I get a lot of business or whatever. Right. I would instantly say no to that because that violates one of my very important core values.
It doesn’t matter what my goals are. Like I said, the goal in this example is to build my business, but if the idea that’s presented or the way to do that is something that violates my core value of being giving and helping people. Even if it’s just one person. I don’t have to think about whether I should or not, or you know, well, some people get hurt in business and blah, blah, blah.
I don’t need to listen to the instant gratification or inside of me. That sounds like logic. I already know it’s a solid no, because I know for sure who I am. While my core values are. And I never want to violate them because that’s when I start to lose respect for myself. And my opinion of myself is more important than anybody else’s opinion of me.
Right. And I hope that by listening to this, you’ll start to feel the same way too. So it is super important to be able to identify what some of those core values are. So like I said, a few examples of mine are giving, like I’ve already talked about. Um, sustainability is another one of my core values. Um.
Both in the environment, which is super important to me. Um, but also just being able to have sustainability in what I do and sustainability and my own health and not burning out things like that. I mean, it encompasses a lot. So hopefully these will give you ideas as to how to use core values to identify yourself.
Um, so if you are somebody that continues to identify as your job or as. And owner of of a material good or whatever it may be. Start to think more critically than that. Start to shift the focus away from looking outward to find who you are, to turning inward to find who you are. And then that’s where the real magic starts to happen.
So to recap, the first two. Ways to start to reinvent yourself is a little bit of pre-work. I’m not going to lie to you. So of course, first we need to be able to recognize that your past experiences do not define your capabilities for the future. And once you get past that point and you realize, okay, so the future is my future is really endless.
If I don’t limit myself to what I’ve already done, seen or heard, because quite frankly, you know, the universe is a lot bigger than your past, right? Like there’s so much in this world that isn’t just your past. And so to just write off the rest of . You know, your life as the small sliver of what you’ve experienced is just, I mean, it’s irresponsible in a way.
Um, it’s irresponsible because you are not looking outside of yourself. Um, you’re not thinking bigger picture, which I get. It’s really easy to, so that’s why I focus so much in that first point. Second point to recap is to identify your core values before you need to reinvent yourself. And now we’re going to get into the juicy bits.
Now we’re going to get into the real, the real work here, the real, um, starting to shift from the pre-work into the real work, right? So 0.3 is to. Take steps for self-discovery and limit outside influences. So remember at the top of the episode when I was talking about how I needed to just step away from everything, that reminded me of my former career and everybody that I used to hang out with from my former career and things like that, because I was in such a vulnerable state, I didn’t know who I was.
I lost. I didn’t lose my job. I quit my job because I didn’t want to do it anymore. But I had identified as that for a years. My, my worth was attached to the way that I performed in my job. So if I made a bunch of sales and my, my numbers were up, then my worth was up. If I didn’t, and I was on the other end of that, then I started to feel like shit about myself.
I mean, really. So. When I did not identify as that anymore, I literally had no idea who I was because everything I did was tied into what I, what I did for the company. And so I was in a really vulnerable state because I didn’t know what my core values were and I based everything that I thought I could do on my past experiences.
So to me, I’m like, I have no idea who I am. And all I know is the field that I was in. I was in the retail industry, I’m in the fashion world. And so all I needed was that. So I’m like. Well, great. I, I, I don’t want to get another job in fashion. Like, I don’t want to do this. That’s where I started spiraling out of control because I just thought I was completely limited to that.
So I was in a very vulnerable state. I didn’t have that buffer, that, that kind of invincibility cap. Well, it’s not a cap, but whatever. You see what I mean? I didn’t put my invincibility hat on. I’m just going to roll with it. I didn’t put my invincibility hat on. Um, and let. Anything bounce off of me. I was very damaged.
At that point. I felt like I was damaged. I felt vulnerable. I felt like anything and everyone could hurt me and was hurting me. I was not in a good spot. So that’s why I say step away from anything in your past that you want to separate yourself from. As much as you possibly can, both mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally, all of that.
Take a break from the things in your past because again, if you are struggling with the idea of limiting yourself to what you’ve experienced in the past, then it’s going to be pretty hard to think outside of that box. If everybody. From your former life is trying to pull you back in or trying to tell you like, Oh, you’ve changed, or Oh, don’t change who you are.
You know, whatever that may be. But changing yourself is good if you want to become better, right? If you want to become more of who you are, so reinventing yourself. What we’re really doing here, we’re not finding ourselves. You’re not, you’re not a pair of lost keys, right? What we’re doing is uncovering who you actually are.
And taking off all of those layers from decades and decades of you telling yourself that you needed to fit into a certain box that you didn’t, um, like me with my former career or something like that. And so that’s why I am suggesting to be able to step away from those types of people. Like I said, that’s why I had to step away from my former friends inside of my job because I needed to figure out who I was without them and if I were to stay around them in my vulnerable state, all I would want to do is go back to where I was because.
You know, maybe it wasn’t comfortable, but it was something I knew or, you know, maybe I, I would, eh, they would do or say something unintentionally to me, that would end because of me being in such a vulnerable state, I would feel so hurt. Right. So that’s why I’m saying take some space as much as you possibly can.
Now I get that. Especially if it comes to something like friends or family or something like that. It’s going to be hard to take some space, but take as much as you possibly can and just take as much time as you can to spend with just yourself without other influences, including the internet, including TV, including social media, all of that.
Like if you can just sit quietly. By yourself. I know this sounds absolutely torturous, but hang in there with me. If you can take some time by yourself just to hear your own thoughts. It’s going to be hard. It’s going to be scary and you’re going to hate it for awhile because. Yeah. Quite frankly, in this state, you’re not very nice to yourself, so it’s hard to, it’s hard to listen to yourself when you are by yourself, but this is incredibly important because in order for us to be able to figure out where you want to go, you’ve got to be able to figure out where you are right now.
Because in order to create that bridge from who you are now to who you want to become, we need to know where to start building the bridge. Right. Okay, so that was step three. Last but not least, now that we’ve taken, this is the hard, the unglamorous, the unsexy part of reinventing yourself is these first three points.
Now we’re going to get into the more fun side, the more glamorous side, the sexier side, and we’re going to talk about creating a vision for your life. So. Fortunately, all of these points here I’ve actually done podcast episodes about, so I’m going to be linking a few different episodes and blog posts and whatnot in the show notes here.
So just make sure to check the links in the description wherever you’re listening. But I’ve definitely done one about creating a vision for your life, and I’ll briefly go into it here. But what we want to do is now that you’ve identified your core values and you know that those lead into the types of goals that you need to have that are aligned with who you are.
Now we can be able to take all of that information and start to create a vision for the future. Um, so we can start to make goals for the future. And that’s going to be basically the way that you can bring it this new. Version of you to life, right? We’ve got to be able to think about who you’re going to become in the future and how you’re going to get there.
So in order to create a vision for your life, we want to think about the different areas of your, of your life, and we need to review who this person is that’s going to bring all of those goals in each of these areas of your life to lie to life. Have I been saying life a lot. Hopefully it’s not getting weird anyway, so how do we do this?
So I w there’s seven areas that I would start with. Now you can obviously add on more if there’s more areas of your life that you want to look at, you can take off less. If there’s. Something that I mentioned that isn’t really aligned with you or just doesn’t feel right in your body. This is not a, you have to do this or you’re doing it wrong kind of situation.
These are just suggestions, but I would suggest starting in a few different areas. So look at these areas of your life and again, envision where you want to go and what you want these to look like, because that’s going to help you identify. The person you need to become in order to bring these to life.
So think about things like your relationships, so family, friends, et cetera. How do you want to be in your relationships? How do you want to show up in your relationships? What do you want your relationships to look like in the future? I think about things like your health and not just your physical health, but your spiritual health, your mental health, emotional health.
There’s probably another health that I’m missing, but I can’t think of it. But you know, spiritual, mental, emotional, physical. I feel like I’ve got it all covered there. You see where I’m going with that? So not just one area, but how do you want to feel in your life? How do you want to wake up. In your life?
How do you want to feel in your body? How much energy do you want to have? Um, think about all of those types of things. And then think about, that leads me into thinking about, um, think about your day to day routines, like what does the most ideal Workday look like for you? What does just the most ideal off day look like for you?
What does the ideal vacation look like? All of those types of things. Like think about what you want your day to day to look like. Um, and what do you want your routines to look like, especially. Think about things like your, your, um, your money and your finances. Where do you want to end up with your finances?
How do you want to feel about your finances? Who is the type of person that is able to execute these financial goals? Thinks about thinking about things like this. Um, also something that I think is important for me at least, is to be able to think about how I’m giving back and the contribution that I’m giving to society.
So you know, if that’s important to you, think about what you want to do with your life in this world. When it comes to that, how much difference do you want to make? What does that look like in the future? Who do you need to become in order to do all of that? You see where I’m going with this? So any area of your life like that that’s important to you.
Think about where you currently are, where you want to go, and then the person you need to become in order to embody that. Right? And so. This is a bonus point. This one is not one of the four points I’m talking about, but one of my bonus points is if you can review that vision of yourself, if you can write it down, almost in like I wrote for me personally, I wrote like a manifesto of this.
Um, but you can just bullet point it out. You know, you can type it out, you can talk about it in your voice app, whatever you want to do in your voice memos. Girl you do you. But the important thing is to have some sort of evidence, take it out of your head, have some sort of evidence so that way you can return to it when you’re feeling low.
That way you can return to it when you’re starting to not believe in yourself and not believe in your future. Or when you start to backslide and think, well, I have never done this before, and you start to think that your past equals what you can do in the future, because this. Is going to remind you to pull yourself out of that.
This is going to remind yourself to coach yourself out of that. Um, and so I would make it into a format where you can review it every day, and then you will be the one to inspire yourself and you will be the one to motivate yourself and you will be the one giving yourself guidance. I mean, it’s just like being able to think about yourself as your own guru, which I just, I’d love, I think that’s just perfect.
Okay. My friends. So we’re going to wrap up here, but I just wanted to review what we’ve gone over real quick. So the four ways to reinvent yourself is number one, the way the first way to reinvent yourself is your past experiences. Do not define your capabilities for the future. Point number two is that you need to identify your core values before you reinvent yourself.
Point number three is to take steps for self discovery and limit outside influences. And point number four is to create a vision for your life where you think about different areas of your life, where you are currently in those areas, and where you want to go. And then craft a person who does that based off of all four of these points and bonus points if you review.
All of this, that you’ve, all of this work that you’ve done and you review it daily because that’s going to help you stay on track. So if you want some extra help to be able to go. Into a deeper dive with self identity. Then there is a freaking awesome workbook that I made that is all about self identity and I will make sure to link that here and you can get that for free.
All you gotta do is just put your info in and I will email it over to you. Um, and if you are listening to this and you’re like, God, that sounds great, but I don’t know if I’m going to be able to do that. Or, you know, I don’t know if, if. What I’m doing is like too far out of the box or too impossible or things like that.
Yeah. Then let me know. I am seriously more than happy to help people. Obviously had been talking about that a lot in this episode, but if you want some one-on-one help to be able to do that, then I really suggest you check out coaching with me because this is where I help you be able to get out of your own freaking way.
I mean, it sounds so blunt, but I’m just going to be honest. It’s going to be you telling me what you want. You telling me what’s in your way? And then me telling you how it’s not in your way and how we can create steps to get around it or move the thing that’s blocking you out of your way and to create a tailored action plan all about that.
So if that strikes your fancy and you would like some real help, being able to make some real. Real movement on your goals. Then I’ll link that in the show notes below, but you can check it out at Monica frederick.com/coaching all right. Do you guys, so I’m going to see you next week and next week. I’m excited for that episode too because we are going to be moving on from the self identity part into taking action part.
So we’re going to be talking about when you know what your goals are. And they’re aligned with you, and maybe it has to do with starting a new business, or maybe it’s starting a new career or whatever it is. You’re doing something that’s aligned with who you are and that’s your passion is aligned with who you are.
I were talking about how to get over the fear and to be able to take real massive action on that. So it starts to come to life instead of self sabotaging your way into just doing busy work and thinking that that busy work is going to get you to where you want to go because hint, hint, it’s not going to.
All right guys, so that’s it for this episode and I will see you next week.
P.S. If you’re ready to start bringing your dreams to life and finally get over the negative self-talk stopping you, then we need to chat! I’m offering a free 1-on-1 virtual call to help you define your goals, pinpoint what’s *actually* stopping you from getting them and what steps you NEED to take to make them a reality. I can’t wait to talk to you then!
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