This episode is for people with just one 0 in their bank account and those with LOTS of money.
If you think that your self-worth is tied to the amount of money you have, this episode is for you.
Misplaced self-worth in money is why someone wealthy can be absolutely miserable if they’re always chasing it. And someone with nothing can be happier than anyone on earth. It’s not the monetary value that makes them feel the way they do; it’s their thoughts and beliefs about what money means about them.
This does NOT mean I’m telling you that you should give everything up so that you feel happy and confident. I’m saying that I want to help you get to a point where IF you had nothing, you could still feel happy. Your happiness and satisfaction with life aren’t determined by what money can provide.
You know this episode is for you by imagining if tomorrow you woke up with $100,000 extra in the bank account. If this changes the way you view yourself — like how you like or respect yourself — then you know you’re tying your value with money.
Today we’re looking at how your belief in yourself and your self-worth is more valuable than money can ever be to you.
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Why it’s easy to find your self-worth in the amount of money you have.
Money is the Lowest Common Denominator when it comes to value.
This means it has an equal amount of value for every person. For example, $1 is $1, that’s a fact that no one argues.
The “lowest common denominator” definition I’m using here is “to describe — in a disapproving manner– a rule, proposal, opinion, or media that is deliberately simplified to appeal to the largest possible number of people.”
If you want to feel valuable, it’s easy to associate your value with money. Everyone on Earth finds money valuable. With this logic, the more money you have, the more valuable you are, right?
It certainly makes you seem more valuable to more people.
As opposed to a higher common denominator for value… Like the way you view yourself.
Your self-confidence is 100% valuable to you. But not as valuable to anyone else. So it’s hard to keep your focus on building your self-trust and confidence if you think things only have value when lots of people agree.
That’s why it’s so easy to spend life chase money. Or to horde it and only buy things that make you LOOK more valuable on the outside (like cars, clothes, homes, vacations that you can Instagram, etc.).
These types of purchases are easy to SHOW your monetary value, therefore reaffirming your belief that money = self-value.
But the truly HIGER value things for you would be investing in belief in yourself, your self-confidence, and building your self-worth.
This is why I genuinely believe in the power of coaching. Working with someone to point out your day-to-day behaviors that don’t match who you want to be and the life you want to live is something I really think is more valuable than any amount of money. Because time is the only truly non-renewable resource, and the more time you waste putting your value in something outside of you and NOT living up to the type of life you want is the only thing I think is an actual waste of time.
Why putting your self-worth in money hurts your confidence
Let’s use an example of someone “selling out.”
Think about a band like Metallica.
They started off respecting their craft, and their view of the VALUE of their craft outweighed the monetary value. They would rather stay true to their craft, then change something about it just for the sake of money.
This meant, their music was SUPER valuable to their faithful fans, while it wasn’t to everyone else.
This is like the highest common denominator when it comes to value. Metallica’s fans saw their music as more valuable than the money the band was asking for in a CD sale.
Then they switched. They started thinking that MONEY was more valuable than their craft. So, they watered down their value in their craft to be more appealing to a broader audience. Therefore, they lowered the value across the board.
I don’t know the members of Metallica personally, but I can assume that after they de-valued their craft (a.k.a. what made them UNIQUE), they probably felt entirely out of alignment with who they wanted to be.
When you base your self-worth on the lowest common denominator, it’s easy to feel worthless and miserable because your worth is built on a house of cards.
Like, if you lost your money, you wouldn’t be anything without it.
Or even if you had 10 million in the bank, you’d still feel like it wasn’t enough because there will always be someone else with the same amount of money in the bank that LOOKS like they’re more “valuable” than you.
And you’ll always hurt spending it because it will feel like you’re taking away your own value when you do.
You’ll find that you continue to de-value yourself if you keep associating your worth with money. Like in your business or career, you’ll struggle to make goals. Your home life, because of where you live, and the number of things you have will never be enough. Or even your relationship will suffer if you think that expensive vacations and fancy dinner dates = love.
This isn’t about scoffing at money or hating it, either.
I spent a ton of time either chasing money because I thought it would make me feel better about myself. Or I would run away from it, thinking it would control me.
I convinced myself that I was a “better” person for not wanting it. Even though, deep down, I always wanted it.
This flip-flopping is exhausting, and you can avoid it by acknowledging that money IS valuable, but it’s not the MOST valuable thing out there.
This episode is a reminder that the beliefs about YOU are the most valuable thing you have.
Your belief in yourself and your self-worth is going to be the legacy you leave. Why? Because the results you have in your life originate from your thoughts.
If you genuinely believe in yourself, this will make you feel good about yourself. When you FEEL good about yourself, that’s when inspiration and Motivation hits. Then you’re taking actions from this frame of mind. You’re hell-bent of doing the things you want and bringing the results you want to life because you BELIEVE that you can.
Anyone can have a shit ton of money. But no one can make an IMPACT with it like YOU. And until you realize that, you’ll never have enough of it.
Base your value on something higher in VALUE than money.
Most importantly, your thoughts and beliefs about yourself and your worth.
Money can’t make you trust yourself. Money can’t make you feel that you’ve got your own back no matter what happens.
Your THOUGHTS and BELIEFS do. These are what spurs you into creating the value in life you’re meant to.
It could be a craft, art, or service that you sell that is VALUABLE to the people who want to buy it. When you realize there are things more valuable than money, you aren’t afraid to ask for money in your business or career. If what you offer is something you think will benefit that person more than money, you’ll feel COMPELLED to talk about it and offer it.
Or your value is the way you are with your family and friends, lifting them up. You can only do this in a REAL, impactful way when you do it for yourself.
A rising tide lifts all boats. As you raise your own value in yourself, you help others around you do the same.
Check out the episode on the 6 Steps to Self Empowerment to start basing your value on something more concrete than money… pssst, it’s you!
The easiest way to get over your money scarcity mindset is to find YOUR worth in you, regardless of if you’re “broke” or “wealthy”. Scarcity usually happens not because you’re scared of not having essentials and dying because of it. But from losing your status and what the current amount of money means for you.
I’ll give you an example. You know this is true if thinking about needing to move back in with your parents is horrible because it “means” something about you.
When you make something OUTSIDE of you mean something about yourself, you know that the main issue that’s blocking you from living the life you want to is your relationship with yourself.
That’s something I can help you with.
I can teach you how to acknowledge your self-worth, build your confidence, and hold you accountable for bringing the life you daydream about into existence. Schedule a call with me below to get started.