Covid-19 came at a weird time for me. We planned to move to Arizona in May, so I decided that I’d quit my day job in early March. Then our plans to move got thrown out the window, and I had to adjust to working on my business with lots of extra time.
I thought this was a dream come true, but I had NO clue how hard it would be to stay consistent when it was so damn quiet in my house.
The voice of, “You can’t do this” started whispering louder and louder in the silence until it sounded like it was screaming.
If you’re struggling with working on your goals no matter if it’s a Business goal or Career goal, but you’re stuck at home and struggling to do anything other than binge Netflix, or eat, or drink alcohol, this is the episode for you.
What you’ll learn in this episode:
- How it’s not the virus that’s keeping you stuck (even if it feels like it is).
- What questions you should ask yourself to find the real reason you’re feeling stuck or unmotivated to bring your goals to life.
Listen to the Podcast here
It’s not the virus that’s keeping you stuck (even if it feels like it 100% is).
The seriousness of the COVID-19 is real, it’s here, and it’s impacting millions of people. So, don’t get me wrong, this is a situation we’re all dealing with. You may have even said, “This isn’t the time to be focusing on my goals” or something about how a shelter in place order is impacting the way you’ve thought about working on your goals while you’re stuck at home. But here’s something true for me, the clients I work with, and lots of people I see online: the virus is bringing out thoughts and feelings we were already dealing with.
It’s like the virus has heightened these thoughts. I’ll give you an example, let’s say you’ve been working on your money mindset and overcoming thoughts about lack. You’ve probably been worrying about money A LOT recently, right? You may even be totally secure financially now, but you’ve always been worried about losing that money and lately have been thinking about it way more.
Or maybe you’ve been struggling with your weight and have always looked to food to make you feel better. With staying at home, you’re noticing yourself avoiding all of those same feelings with food more often now.
You can think about this with shopping, binging t.v (my personal vice) or something like that. This virus hasn’t brought up new habits when it comes to avoiding taking action on goals, but it’s like it’s shined a spotlight on what was there all along for us, and maybe it isn’t something that we’ve dealt with yet.
In a coaching session, I had with a client, we talked about feelings that were brought up for her because of the virus. After we talked about how her thoughts about the virus were creating her feelings, we dug into what was going on. By the end of the session, we realized that she was feeling guilty about being healthy while others weren’t. She realized it was a pattern she was dealing with since she was a kid, but hadn’t noticed until now. This guilty feeling was stopping her from taking action on working on her budding new business.
If you’re saying the virus is stopping you from taking action on your goals while you’re stuck at home, try this:
Dig into these thoughts you’re having about why it’s the virus that’s stopping you. Is this a new thought stopping you? Or is there some self-doubt that’s being intensified by the virus?
I’m always a fan of journaling your answers to tough questions like these because it allows you to explore and uncover your truths that you may not have realized.
The main reason most of us don’t take consistent action on our goals is from a lack of belief. There’s probably a belief that you won’t achieve your desired results if you set out to get them. I talk about lack of belief a LOT in my episode on Radical Responsibility, but I think it’s important to talk about here, too.
So often, I see that the fear of self-disappointment and failure is the main reason we avoid taking real action on our goals with busy work. Why work on significant areas of our lives that we really want to focus on if there’s a higher likelihood of failure? So, then we consume information, be stuck in perfectionism, or compare on social media.
Add these journal prompts:
- Why am I avoiding taking action on my goals while I’m at home?
- Am I afraid of failure/disappointment if I don’t succeed?
- What’s the worst that can happen if I DO work on my goals today?
- What if I believed 100% that I would achieve my goals, what would I be doing right now?
After a while of exploring your answers, you’ll get A LOT more clear on what’s keeping you from feeling motivated to work on your goals while you’re at home.
P.S. If you’re ready to start bringing your dreams to life and finally get over the negative self-talk stopping you, then we need to chat! I’m offering a free 1-on-1 virtual call to help you define your goals, pinpoint what’s *actually* stopping you from getting them and what steps you NEED to take to make them a reality. I can’t WAIT to talk to you then!