This post goes into the steps I use to get over negativity. My hope is that you’ll be able to apply some of these tips in your own life so you can go and enjoy life!
Is this story familiar?
The other day, I let my negativity take over. My first emotion of that day was, “UGH! I can’t believe I let myself sleep that long; I know better than that!”
I found more and more things to get upset about on the drive to work… “wow the traffic sucks today” or “I’m stuck behind a smelly gas clunker, OF COURSE!“
Let’s just say, I continued that line of thinking all through the day and well into the evening.
Every time anything went wrong, I would nod my head, and tell myself that was just my luck. Like I had no control over the day.
Rainy days happen. If you’re in a negativity rut, here are my tips that have helped me get over my negativity!
1) Remember You’re not alone
While this is something you may hear a lot, I say it because it’s true. There’re too many people out there that feel like they are alone in this world, but they aren’t. And getting over negativity is easier when you know there is someone feeling the same.
So, if you read my story and you’re in the same boat, I want you to know you’re not alone. Literally every human on this planet struggles with this throughout their life.
It may seem like you are the only person struggling with this type of feeling. Or you may look at people online or IRL that seem to always be happy ALL THE TIME.
Maybe the thought, “Well, if they have it all together, then why don’t I?!?” creeps its way in. It can burrow so deep in your mind like a tick. It seems like it’s impossible to get rid of.
But here’s the thing. You CAN get over your negativity rut! I have a few things I’d like for you to be open to trying.
What I ask as you read through these suggestions is to actually give them a try. I know it’s sometimes easier to say that a solution isn’t possible for you because of different situations. But I promise, if you allow yourself to be open to the idea of these tips working for you, then you will see a shift in mindset.
2) Stop and create distance
If you’re feeling a steady stream of negativity come in, then the important first step is to acknowledge your feelings.
This may seem obvious as hell, but hear me out. When we’re in the midst of our negative thoughts, it’s like your attention becomes a magnet to every little thing that goes wrong. Like you notice more toxic people in your life or traffic sucks more today.
Then when you see something that triggers your feelings, you get consumed by the feeling.
How many times when you feel anger, fear, or irritation and you say, “I’m angry” or “I’m so irritated right now”
It’s like you’re identifying your whole mind, body, and soul as that one emotion. But I’m here to remind you that you’re more than one bad feeling!
Human beings are WAY more complex than one negative emotion. We can’t just boil down our entire being to one emotion (even if it is just for a short period of time).
I’m here to remind you that you are more than this bad feeling, and you are actually MANY things all at once.
Try saying this instead…
If you hear yourself identifying as one emotion, even in the heat of the moment, stop right there! Stop your that train of thought, and redirect.
Instead of saying “I am” try “I am feeling angry”
Even just adding the word “feeling” in your sentence, changes the message you’re telling yourself and those around you.
When you say, “I am (insert feeling)” you’re saying that you ARE that feeling and NOTHING else! But when you say, “I’m feeling (insert emotion)” it’s like a subconscious cue that you’re able to be more than that.
Just the simple step of acknowledging your emotions reminds you that you have the capability to get over your negativity.
3) Breathe (just breathe!)
I hope you were singing “Breathe (2AM)” by Anna Nalick just now! 😂
Ok, but seriously though..
If you’re falling down that rabbit hole of negativity, take a few deep breaths. And when I say few, I mean at least one minute’s worth.
Try doing a mindful minute
I love taking a mindful minute when I’m in a rush of emotion. When I’m feeling anxious about something and the panic starts to bubble up, I do this along with a few other steps to calm myself down.
This is a breathing exercise you can do anytime and anywhere.
Here’s how to do it:
- Set a timer for one minute
- Breathe deep (but equal in time) breaths
- Count each complete breath (from the inhale to the exhale) until the timer ends
- How many breaths you took is your personal mindful minute!
Mine is 15. So when I feel any type of negative emotion take over, I count my 15 breaths. Usually, after this, I’ll feel a little calmer.
This gives your brain a chance to focus on something else other than what is making you angry, pessimistic, or whatever your negative feeling is.
This is is one of my tricks for adding meditation into your routine, as well! So, if you need help adding meditation into your day, click here!
4) Stop what you’re doing and change your routine
If you start to feel a wave of negativity wash over you, take a second to see what you’re doing! Especially if what’s making you feel this way is a bad habit of yours.
Are you doing something like:
- Scrolling on social media?
- Watching TV?
- Thinking about a conversation with your family that didn’t go well?
When you notice yourself becoming negative based on what you’re doing, then stop!
Abruptly stop and do something else. Even if it’s as small as stopping the scroll on your phone to take a shower. Or stopping your work on the computer to get up and take a walk.
Physically forcing yourself to get up and move your body in some way can be the shift in perspective that you need. If you continue to practice this, you’ll be able to shift your patterns of thought more easily!
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OK, SO HOW DO YOU GET OVER NEGATIVITY?
What do you think about these ways to get over negativity?
I’d love to hear your side of the story! Do you have special ways to pull yourself out of the negative slump? Let me know in the comments below, or connect on Instagram!
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